It is hard not to worry about someone you really love when you see them making decisions that are not in their best interest. When you see them make decisions that are not currently dangerous but could easily turn into a slippery slope...how do you just let them continue? There is one person in my life currently that is causing a feeling of panic inside me...I love this person more than anything and want to fix everything for them. It's always been this way but this person is at a point in their life where I recognize they need to start making their own decision and what it means to become an adult.
At what point in your relationship with someone do you take a step back and ultimately let them make mistakes and learn responsibility? How do you cope with recognizing unhealthy choices that someone you love is making but knowing they won't take you seriously if you express your concern? It requires wisdom, trust and patience: wisdom to know when to step in and when to step away; trusting that the other person will find their way; patience to allow them time to do so.
There are times when a loved one needs support, nurturing and direction, and times when these same expressions of love interfere with their process. Caring and caretaking are two different things. This is the crossroads I find myself at now. My whole life I've been a caretaker for this person...and now I find it an extremely difficult transition to just be a person who cares. I must now show support and compassion instead of making decisions and doing things on behalf of this person.
I feel confused, out of control, and panicked at not being able to do anything to help. I recognize though, that this person is capable of making wise choices and that it may take a few mistakes to get there. I will choose to trust God with this person and these circumstances. I can't quite describe the feeling I have but it's almost like this person is standing on a ledge...nothing bad has happened but I feel that they're about to fall. I don't want to borrow trouble from tomorrow. This is a great opportunity for me to exercise my faith! I cannot fix the situation, but I can pray for God to be the deciding factor in this person's decision making.
Lord, I pray that you would invade the heart of this person that I love so much. Direct them towards you and create in them a desire to live a life worthy of you. I pray for godly people to enter their life and mentor and invest in them. Help me to not worry but instead entrust you with the situation.
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